Intro
The first part of this blog post focused on people who chase their dreams and work hard to achieve everything they have ever wanted. They know what situations to put themselves in and what situations to stay out of. The opposite of those people are the rule breakers of sports. The people who have the possibility to break the chains of where they come from and what they were raised in but who fail to do so.
They are Aaron Hernandez.
They are the people who don't know how to get out of the lifestyle they were raised in and make a better life, even after they are handed the keys to the better life.
The Better Life
This morning, Aaron Hernandez was in his "better life" home in Attleboro when his inabilities to get away from the life of gangs and guns he was raised in caught up to him. Police appeared at his house this morning and escorted him in a white t-shirt and red gym shorts to a police cruiser where he was taken to the local district court and charged with 1st-degree murder and five gun related counts.
I don't want to jump to conclusions and say that he is guilty because there is no validation of that yet. There is a ton of circumstantial evidence that surrounds Aaron Hernandez and either way, I don't see his NFL career ever being around again. We love giving people second chances and someone like Ray Lewis is a great example of it, but something in my gut tells me that Hernandez wouldn't change if he did get another chance.
I don't know what it is about some people but they can't seem to get away from trouble. It's almost like they don't want to. I know people who were in a bad situation, moved to a better one and still found ways to get into trouble. You can sit down with them, tell them how stupid and moronic their behavior was, they completely agree with you and then the cycle continues a few weeks later.
When you look at the track record of Aaron Hernandez, he has always been a troubled individual. From his childhood, to college years, to now being charged with 1st-degree murder, it keeps increasing.
He may not be given another chance to screw up if found guilty of murder. He'll be in jail for many years and his life will essentially be over. The echoes of this crime just show you how important it is of who you surround yourself with.
Break the Chain
I've never been involved in any gang activity. I don't know what the lives of many people in urban America are like. I can only imagine what I see and hear from music, television, movies, and people who have been through it.
One common thing that I hear from the people who break out of it, is how they must break the chain. How they don't want their children to go through the same things they went through. This doesn't seem to be the mindset of many people who make it in sports from these places.
I credit the pressure of your peers from the ghetto trying to ride your coattails to the top as one thing that causes people who make it out to fall back in. I also credit the sense of community built in these areas through gangs or association of being from the same 'hood. When you make it out, you're told that you owe it to these people to give back. You're told that you're changing if you try to live a straight life and distance yourself from it all.
This is how so many people fail to stay successful when they make it out of these environments. They get brought back down by their peers. You must break the chain when you come from any place where you had to overcome extreme odds to succeed. You will always have someone who knew you before you were at that peak and that will say you changed or you owe them something. Don't listen to them.
They are just jealous of the success you're about to have and want some of it for themselves. You must be intelligent and distance yourself from idiots. I understand that kids make mistakes and most things people do under the age of 21, I have some will to forgive them. Once you get into your mid-20s or have the opportunity to get away from it at a younger age, then you have no excuses.
All Behind Bars NFL Team
One striking statistic that I came across today was that near 30 NFL players have been arrested since the Super Bowl. That's enough to field an entire NFL team. Business Insider published a list of the active players and their crimes, and it is quite disturbing how many players are in trouble.
Yes, the NFL has around 2,000 players but that means about 2% of the league has been arrested since the Super Bowl. How many other businesses have 2% of its employees behind bars?
This is a serious problem within the NFL. It isn't like all of these charges are for simple things. There are a slew of DUIs, disorderly conducts, bar fights, marijuana possession, and on and on.
The NFL needs to fix this problem. I haven't heard of issues like this in any other league since Gilbert Arenas was flashing guns in the locker room years ago in the NBA. I haven't heard of any players in the NBA getting arrested. Other than the steroid problem in baseball, they don't have any criminals. NASCAR, the NHL, soccer, they don't have it happening.
The NFL had two murder related arrests just today! You can't have enough people in trouble that you could field a team of criminals.
Since the Super Bowl there has been one player arrested in the NBA. You know, the league that people stereotype as being a bunch of blacks from the ghetto running around with a ball on the court. The NBA has its act together. The NBA is the league your kids should be watching. Look at the top stars of the NBA. LeBron James, Kevin Durant, Tim Duncan, Kyrie Irving. None of them have any criminal records. You've never heard of any of them getting in any type of trouble. The NBA arrest was Terrence Williams for an assault charge.
Sports Arrest Leaders Since the Super Bowl
The New York Jets have had more arrested in May (3) than the other major sports in America have had since the Super Bowl. If you add in Chad Johnson and Titus Young, then the NFL number is up to 29.
NFL: 29 (27 active)
NBA: 1
NASCAR: 1
NHL: 0
Soccer: 2
This is a bigger issue than one kid not being able to get away from the people who he knew before he became a star. This is about a league wide epidemic of people getting in trouble.
If you're ever given a chance to live out your dreams or take a risk that pays off huge, don't be a rule breaker who throws everything away, be a chain breaker who exceeds to new heights.
P.S. - Have you seen Mark Sanchez being an idiot on film?
Thanks for reading!
- Tim